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I HAVE AN AMAZING ANNOUNCEMENT

Hey guys!

As the title of this post says I HAVE AN ANNOUNCEMENT! It is official, I have started a YouTube channel! I am so excited about this and cannot wait to see where this will lead me!

The channel will be similar to this blog. My goal is to educate people about disabilities. As well as, (hopefully) give a voice and hope to the disabled community. Growing up disabled is an extremely lonely thing. I knew no one else with a disability, and I couldn’t find anyone anywhere. It led me to believe the lies that everyone told me. The ones that said I couldn’t do anything. The ones that insisted I have no future. The screams that say disabled people are burdens and a waste of breath.

After a while of hearing this, you begin to believe it. I’m hoping through this channel I can show both abled and disabled that someone with a disability has a purpose and a future. We aren’t destined to never leave the house and not reach our dreams. But that we are just the same as everyone else and are capable!

It would have similar notes to this blog, but the content will be different. As much as I love blogging there is a difficulty to it. That, of course, is that it’s not visual or audible. You can’t hear my pain or see the difficulty of walking. You have to try and “see” everything through words. As much as I love words and their power, writing is not always the most optimal way to get something across.

Having said that, I am continuing with the blog and I’m hoping the two will weave together! I will be posting to my YouTube on Sundays, so please follow me on this journey. I’m really nervous and still trying to work out how to do it all. But I truly appreciate the support!

So here it is, my first video:

GROWING UP DISABLED | WELCOME TO MY CHANNEL

Thank you, everyone, if it wasn’t for your support here, I would have never done this. It’s been a dream of mine for eight years. If it wasn’t for you, I would never have had the confidence.

SO, THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU! I can’t wait to see where this journey takes me1

As always be kind to one another and yourself!

Bethany

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How I Went From Eating Everything to Nothing in 4 Days.

Hello everyone!

Today I am going to talk about something that I haven’t brought up publicly before. The story of how my got turned completely upside down in less than a week. I won’t lie to you, I’m nervous but I also think it’s necessary.

Just over a year ago, I ate a banana and fainted face forward onto my kitchen tiles. A few days later, I drank some orange juice and felt like I was going to faint again. This time I didn’t. Instead, I started shaking, nearly vomiting, and being dizzy as heck. That was the beginning of a long night of me getting sicker and sicker. After that night, it happened every time I ate for weeks, 

But, let’s go back, for a second. Before this, I could eat almost anything bar meat. I was fine with that; I love being a vegetarian. But absolutely everything else was fine to eat. It was something I took for granted, and also something I greatly miss.

So, how did I get from being able to eat a stack of pancakes, to not being able to even stomach a mouthful? It all happened over four days. 

I had an ear infection, I wouldn’t normally go to the doctor for this, but on this occasion I did. It was a week before I was due to fly from Australia to England; I knew an ear infection with 25 hours of flying would never end well. So, I went and got antibiotics. It worked well. I had my flight, my eardrums stayed intact, and I was with my overseas family for the first time in eight years. Except by that point, I hadn’t eaten a real meal since the fateful orange juice night, three days before the flight. Up until the plane ride, all I pretty much ate was toast. On the plane, I picked at the food and ate the fruit. I had no appetite, and my stomach was on edge the entire time.

When I was in England, my body seemed to recover. I ate normally and I only had one or two “attacks.” It was as if my body or God knew what was coming and gave me a break to enjoy food and my holiday as much as possible. I was still careful with what I ate, and my appetite was low. But I kept food down. Whilst I was there, I felt exhausted, weak and nauseous all the time. In the first week, or so and my aunt (who’s a nurse) worked out I needed to eat every two hours to not feel as if I was going to faint. In the meantime, I couldn’t stop drinking water. If I didn’t have a sip every ten minutes, I would feel so dehydrated, I could barely talk. 

By the time I got back to Australia, I had a sort of grip on everything. I was eating every two hours and had grown back some appetite. But I was losing weight rapidly. I dropped an entire dress size. By the end of four weeks, I had lost nearly ten kilograms. 

By now, we were all thinking I must have diabetes. A lot of people in my family had it so we knew the signs. A week after we got back from the UK, I saw my doctor, who did a whole bunch of tests to reveal one disorder: 

I have a hypersensitive sympathetic nervous system.

 In fact, my doctor said that diabetes would have been a better diagnosis. Unfortunately, no one knows how I got this illness. It’s a rare, and unknown sickness. However, we think it was a reaction to the antibiotics. 

Now, all I can eat are food with a low glycemic index. That means food that doesn’t raise your blood sugar fast. Also known as, no sugar, almost no carbs, and for me specifically, no coffee. As an ex coffee addict, this was the worst part for me. Ultimately, my eating habits are and a whole lot of blandness. On top of this, my hormones were completely mixed up. I cried almost every day at anything. I couldn’t my anger or any of my emotions and I quickly fell into a depression. I didn’t want to go outside, I couldn’t eat in most places (and still can’t), I had to give up my favourite outings that I used to frequent almost every week. Nobody understood what was happening and most of my friends didn’t believe it. They would try and get me to eat things I couldn’t and told me to just eat it anyway. When I didn’t, they got annoyed at me and often refused to go out with me if they wanted to eat.

I was so overwhelmed and felt as if I was a huge burden to everyone around me. I couldn’t afford to buy the food I needed to eat, so my parents had to help when they couldn’t either. I felt as if a huge part of my life had been ripped apart. I didn’t enjoy eating anymore. I didn’t like having to eat constantly and having no appetite. I hated that everything and everyone made me cry, and I was anxious to ever do anything or eat anything new and I was so angry the whole time. As time went on, I started to become terrified of getting sick in any other way. My mind ran rampant with how to stay clean and healthy, in a cycle, over and over without giving me a break. It felt as if I was doomed to live in a permanent state of fear and in and out of panic. I started living my life doing everything I can to avoid illnesses.  Wash my hands religiously, I avoided anything with potential side effects. 

Now, a year later, I am still struggling. Slowly, I have increased how often I can eat, and I’ve been able to manage my emotions and hormones, but I still struggle. At this point, I eat because I have to not because I enjoy it. I still often feel like a burden to those around me, constricting where we can go eat. I am still often afraid. Scared to eat, scared to try new things. I am still struggling to control my mind and to not worry about sickness. I still avoid, I still wash my hands and a myriad of other things. But I’m also working to get better. 

I often feel as I have no control over myself and life. Like everything I do can be pointless, and I’m doomed to be a slave to my mind and body. But here’s the thing…that isn’t true. I may not be fixed, I may never get better, but there is always hope. There is a reason for all of this and a way out of my crazy mind. Nothing lasts forever, not even despair. There is joy, and always a bright side. 

For me, that bright side is that I am eating healthy. That I am giving my body what it deserves and treating it with care and kindness. For the first time ever, I listen to what my body needs and respect that with care and love. I have learnt how to be grateful for the little things and how much my body truly loves me. How it is amazing what my body can put up with and function. It loves me so much and was designed so magnificently. This whole experience has taught me to love myself and my body in a way I don’t think I would have gotten to if it weren’t for this. That is a beautiful, wonderful and exciting thing that I am grateful for. I’m even more grateful for this than I am about the fact I could once eat anything. 

If you only take one thing from all of this, let it be this: you are precious, there is hope, you will get through this even when it seems pointless. Your body loves you, there is a reason for that! Love yourself too.

As always be kind to one another. especially YOURSELF!

Bethany.

The Sunshine Blogger Award!

Hey!


I am honoured to announce that I have been nominated for the Sunshine Blogging Award. I feel so blessed that this has happened! I never started this blog for praise, but to educate people on disabilities, and help people along the way. Thanks to you who read these pieces, I know I am doing what I can to end stigmas and discrimination to my community. Saying all of that, it does feel nice to know that I am helping people. So, thank you to my readers. You are all so amazing!

Thank you to Jordyn from The Chronically Unimaginable for putting me up for this award. Your blog is amazing, and I feel so shocked that you would put me in the same category as you! Thank you! (Seriously, guys go check her out).
As a part of this award, I get to answer some questions, so let’s go for it!
The Rules:
• Thank the blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their site.
• List the Sunshine Blogger Award rules and display their logo on your site.
• Answer the SBA questions given by the person who nominated you.
• Nominate 11 other bloggers and ask them 11 new questions.
• Notify the nominees about their nominations.

  1. What made you decide to blog about your certain category?
    A few reasons, really. Part of it started years before. I was going to the beach with my friend and we couldn’t find a park. All of the disabled spots were full and most didn’t have a badge. My friend turned to me and said that before she met me, she had no idea how annoying it was when non-disabled people parked our spots. It was then that I truly began to grasp how unaware most people are when it comes to disabilities. I realised I could either scream and yell, or educate. All I knew was that I had to do something. This sparked my novel that I have been writing — and will hopefully publish one day soon! As much as I love that book, I feel like it didn’t tackle everything that I should. I mean you can’t put every disabled issue in a novel! So, I decided that it was time. On top of that, this blog has been very cathartic and helped me to process everything!
  2. Would you ever have a snake as a pet?
    Hah, no, but I would totally have a water dragon!
  3. Jurassic Park or Star Wars?
    Sorry, I have never seen either!
  4. If you could have one extinct animal come back, what would it be and why?
    I’m going to go with a T-rex! I just think that they’re super fun. Although, they may eat me so perhaps not?
  5. What is an odd pet peeve of yours?
    People who use my favourite pens! You can use any of my hundred others, but not these, please!
  6. What is the weirdest food combination that you enjoy?
    People seem to think it’s weird I like peanut butter and maple syrup on my toast
  7. Do you blog as a hobby or as a profession?
    Hobby, although it would be so cool to turn it into a profession!
  8. Would you rather be able to swim underwater without having to breathe or explore space without needing a space suit?
    Space – I hate water!
  9. What is your favourite thing about your blog?
    The people who read it, and comment their own thoughts. It always expands my mind! Plus, I love, love, love meeting new people
  10. Would you ever go on the show ‘Naked and Afraid’?
    Never. Ever. Nope. I cannot.
  11. Middle of the day or middle of the night?
    Middle of the day!

My nominations are (in no particular order):
Jennily
Books Love Readers
Grown from Traumas
Another Bipolar Blogger
Undercover Superhero
Miranda Oakley
Ramblings of a Book Addict
Let’s see if I can
The Girl who Drools in her Sleep
Dragons and Dandelions

All of these blogs are amazing, and well worth checking them out!

My Questions:

  1. Besides blogging, do you have any other creative projects?
  2. What’s a guilty pleasure you have?
  3. If you could visit anywhere in the universe would you stay on earth or explore another planet?
  4. Favourite way to rest?
  5. What’s an unexpected fact your readers may not know about you?
  6. What is the earliest memory you have?
  7. Do you collect anything? If so, what?
  8. Why did you start a blog?
  9. Would you ever go on a reality TV show, if so why?
  10. What’s the best thing that has happened to you this year?
  11. Do you have any pet peeves?

Thank you again to Jordyn for nominating me, and for everyone who has ever read any of my posts!

If you like this kind of stuff, let me know and I’ll include more random stories and things about me in my posts!

You are all amazing! Be kind to one another and yourself!

Bethany

Five Things the Abled Can Do to Help End Disabled Discrimination

Hey y’all,

One of the most common questions I get asked is, “What is it that I can do to end ableism?” For those who are new, according to Google, ableism as, defined and “discrimination in favour for able-bodied people.” What a lot of able people don’t realise is that these kinds of acts are extremely common in everyday life. As a disabled person, not a day goes by where I don’t see it or hear about it from people all over the world. This can be anything from hurtful comments such as, “You’re an abomination.” To physical harm and crimes made against us. Such as bags being stolen, or mobility aids being destroyed.

Ultimately, a lot of ableist remarks are made out of ignorance. For example, many strangers try to compliment me by telling me, “You’re so brave, I would kill myself if I were you.” Or people trying to help me get around by grabbing my chair without permission. All of this is wrong, hurtful and often terrifying. But I know many abled people just don’t know what to do, and how to avoid being ableist.

Before I continue, I need to make sure that you know that I am not excusing those who make ableist remarks and harm. That will never be okay. However, I am merely trying to end this trend one person at a time by showing respect and love. By explaining some ways how to be with disabled people and not be discriminating.

I might be wrong, but from what I can gather abled people struggle to not be ableist because it’s what they have been taught from birth. Society insists on it and it is everywhere. Once you’re aware of it, the whole magnitude of ableism is so overwhelming. How can one person make a difference at this point? Is there really any point in trying? Believe me, I ask myself that question on a daily basis.

But luckily, I am here to share some thoughts on how you can help. Everything I am about to say is all my opinion, but I truly believe will make the world a better place!

Here are five things you can do to help disabled people live an equal life to everyone else and not spread this ableism.

1. Listen to us and believe what we have to say!

When it comes to this topic, I really struggle to get others to understand me. I will tell one of my many stories where ableism was at play and instantly people won’t believe me. Here’s the thing, just because you don’t necessarily see something happen that doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. It’s like me claiming that cows don’t actually produce milk because I have never seen it. Our stories are real, painful, and important.

2. Learn from what we have been through!

When we tell you about things that people have done, learn from the hurt we have experienced. Try to avoid following the footsteps of those who do ableist actions. Learning is always a part of life, so don’t panic if you screw up. Just try! If you slip up in the meantime, that’s okay! Give yourself grace, knowing that you’re trying so hard, and you are making a difference! I am so grateful!

3. Don’t ask us “what happened?” straight away.

When people meet us and ask about how we became disabled right away, it feels horrible. Ultimately, we are more than our disability. On top of that, you don’t have an instant right to my story, just because we’re in the same room. And I don’t deserve to be put on the spot like that. It’s not like I would go up to you and ask what your biggest trauma is. I would never expect you to tell me your dark secrets before you even tell me your name. No one should expect us to do the same.

4. Ask questions.

Okay, you can only do this one when you know us well enough. But when I become friends with someone and they ask me questions about how to do better, it means that they really care. I feel valued and I love to answer them concerns!

5. Spend time with us.

Treat us the same as you would anyone else. Hang out with us, go to the movies, to cafes, to whatever it is that you enjoy. You will quickly learn that we are great and more than just people with disabilities who are fighting ableism. We are people with thoughts and interests. The more you are with us and value us, the more you’ll see ableism. It’s then you learn how to help end ableism in yourself.

There you go, five of the many ways to help the disabled community. Ways to end ableism and to raise our equality. To those who wanted to know, thank you! To those who are going to take, this on board THANK YOU! The fact that you acknowledge ableism is half the battle and you’re doing amazing! We are so grateful!

Remember this as you go forward, everyone has been ableist before (including me). It’s okay that you have made mistakes, I promise.

If you have any questions, ask away me in the comments! I won’t take it personally, and I will do my best to answer them!

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As always, be kind to yourself and those around you!

Bethany.

Six Things That Amaze me About Abled People

Hey everyone, 

Today I thought I would share with you six things that I find mind-blowing about abled people. Seriously, as someone who has never been an abled person, I find myself saying, “wow, you can do that?” about 100 times a day.

So, in no particular order, let’s go!

1. Fine motor control

Okay, here’s the thing, my fine motor control is terrible. Like I have to get someone to tie my shoelaces on a bad day. I never cut up my own vegetables or anything like that either. Cause you know, sharp knife + tremor = cut off finger. So, whenever I see someone chopping really fast or having really neat handwriting, I AM AMAZED. Like I cannot comprehend this ability. I try and work out how they do it, and my brain goes blank. I mean literally blank. All I can end up picturing is fuzzy whiteness in my head. On the plus side, a part of my physiotherapy is to play video games to teach my brain muscle memory. Heck yes playing Mario every day till I die!

2. Spontaneity…what’s that?

There is no way someone can call me up and say, “be ready in ten, we’re going out.” I have to work out if I have the energy. If my legs even want to move. I have to find out how long we’ll be out so that I can pack enough food and meds that mean I won’t faint. I have to make sure wherever we’re going has wheelchair access. I need to make sure that my tires are pumped up enough and that I have dinner made because I know I’ll be too tired to cook by the time I’m back home. For the life of me, I cannot imagine what it’s like to just go out with ten minutes notice. It’s amazing, and something I can get jealous of sometimes.

3. Going out alone…and not having any panic

Obviously, this one isn’t to every abled person, but it is the case for a lot. Every single time I go out and I’m alone I get very anxious. If I’m out long enough that may subside depending on where I am but it’s horrible. There have been too many times where I’m alone and someone I barely know asks me “what happened?” Or tell me that, I’m an abomination or a burden. Or that, “I would kill themselves if I were in your position.” Too many times I’ve heard the stories of people stealing our bags, grabbing our mobility aids, abusing us in way possible. Too many times I have felt it all happen to me and it hurts my heart so deeply. The idea that not everyone has that burning their mind when they’re out or getting an Uber is fascinating to me!

4. You can work 38 or more hours a week…and then still hang out with friends?

I get fatigued going out for more than three hours. If I did that more than two days in a row I would need to be in bed for the rest of the week. The idea that you guys can just work 9-5 and then go out to dinner and do stuff on the weekend blows my mind! Statistically speaking I use 200% more muscle power and energy than the average abled person. Also, my body is fighting my chronic pain while I sleep so my sleep is the equivalent of half of an abled person. So, if I sleep eight hours it’s the equivalent of an abled person sleeping four. Hence why I have NO idea what it is to have energy. I am both so confused and impressed!

5. Pirouettes

I am a huge ballet fan. Like I would go to any ballet any time. In November I’m am seeing the freaking Nutcracker in the Sydney Opera House and I am so excited. I’ve literally had that as a dream since I was five so tiny, little me is ecstatic. Anyway, every time I go to one, someone does a pirouette, or a backflip and I just don’t understand how you balance. The other day I was watching Disney on Ice and during their version of Frozen, one of the backup skaters did a quadruple spin and her legs looked knotted together briefly, but she could still balance. WHAT? HOW? Please, someone, explain

6. How far you can actually walk.

I totally get that you can walk and all that. What I don’t understand is how you lot just go for a casual five-kilometre run. That just seems so overwhelming to me. How are your legs just not collapsed on the floor, like noodles? How are you even alive? How come you can go on with your day? How do human bodies even work?  

Well, there you have it. Six things that amaze me about abled people. There’s so many more that I’m missing, though, feel free to let me know of other ones! 

As always, be kind to yourself and others!

Bethany.

73 Questions About Me!

Hey everyone!

The other day I was nominated by UndercoverSuperhero to hop on the trend of doing a vogue parody by answering 73 questions about me. Thanks, Ami, I’m so excited! Let’s go!

1) What is your usual Starbucks order?

I don’t personally like Starbucks – at least not in Australia. However, at coffee shops, I tend to order peppermint, chai, or lemon and ginger tea.

2) What does your work station look like right now

It’s extremely neat, I just finished cleaning. (I’m obsessed with everything being organised)

3) All-time favourite food? 

This is so hard! I love all food. However, I have allergies so I can only eat low glycaemic food which means almost no sugar or carbs. Also, I’m a vegetarian. So…I’m going to go with nachos or Dahl curry.

4) Favourite Author? 

John Green, 100%

5) What do you think of open relationships?

Honestly, they are not for me, but it’s up to each person what they want.

6) What is your favourite video game? 

Rachet and Clank – Specifically the PS2 versions

7) Guilty Pleasure treat? 

Right now, I’m obsessed with Lindt dark chocolate with hazelnut or Carmen’s orange bliss balls. Seriously, do yourself a favour and try them!

8) Favourite Movie? 

This is too hard – although I did watch Toy Story 4 this week which was amazing!

9) Favourite book? 

The Book Thief by Markus Zusak

10) Twitter or Instagram? 

 I love Insta but I do not do enough for photos, so I guess Twitter?

11) Desktop or laptop?

Laptop

12) Best advice you’ve ever received?

Either, love above all else and everything will fall into place. Or, ultimately no matter what you do in life you will never fail as long as you learn from it. Learning and growing as a person is one of the best things you can do.

13) What project are you working on right now?

My (hopefully) debut novel!

14) Favourite colour? 

Purple

15) Did you get good grades at school?

Nope, I graduated by 2%. Although, I worked really hard in university and redeemed myself

16) Dream job? 

Um, novelist, podcaster, YouTuber? Basically, anything creative that I can also live off. Novelist first and foremost though! However, I don’t believe that our dream job necessarily has to be one thing, it can be multiple facets of us! Humans are way too complicated to be summed up by one thing!

17) Played any sports? 

Does binge-watching shows count?

18) Do you have a degree? 

Yup, a Bachelor of Psychological Science, and I’m about to start a Bachelor of Arts Majoring in Creative Writing.

19) Nationality? 

British and Australian

20) What is your favourite kind of blog post to do? 

Anything happy, or eye-opening. Basically, anything I’m passionate about.

21) What do you like to collect? 

Stationery and stories

22) Describe yourself in three words?

Resilient, sassy, loving

23) If you were a rapper what would your rapper name be? 

Ummm, pass?

24) Who was the last person you DM’d? 

Jordyn, @TheChronicallyUnimaginable

25) What is on the top of your wish list right now?

Peace and acceptance, I guess

26) Sorting house? 

Ravenclaw

27) How many tattoos do you have? 

Zero, I love the idea of getting one, but I can’t commit to a design enough

28) What are you most grateful for this year?

Knowing that I’m not alone even when I feel like I am

29) What’s the best thing that’s happened to you this month?

Tomorrow I’m going to Disney on Ice!

30) What’s the best thing that’s happened to you today? 

I’ve only just woken up so not much has happened yet.

31) What’s the best thing ever? 

For me, Jesus. Other than that, I’m a fan of the Oxford comma 

32) Favourite season? 

In England, autumn; in Australia, winter

34) What fictional character do you relate to the most? 

That is way too hard. It changes depending on what’s going on in my life. Recently I’ve been relating a bit to Aza from Turtles All the Way Down.

35) Do you like surprises? 

If they’re nice, yes

36) What’s the biggest surprise you’ve ever had?

Probably when my best friend booked tickets to fly across the world to see me. I knew she was planning on doing it but when it actually happened it was amazing.

37) What’s the surprise that made you cry? 

The same as above

38) What’s the best surprise you’ve ever given someone? 

I don’t know, I guess you’d have to ask the people in my life, but I like giving really good gifts.

39) Do you like muffins? 

YES, (I miss being able to eat them).

40) Do you cook often? 

Sometimes

41) What’s your favourite dessert? 

I don’t really eat any now, because I can’t really have sugar. But before it Creme brûlée. 

42) Is there a dessert you don’t like? 

That weird fruit cake that only exists around Christmas

43) Cake or pie? 

Pie

44) What’s your least favourite food? 

Zucchini’s (Courgettes), Capsicum (bell peppers), and peas.

45) What’s your favourite condiment?

Mild Nando’s sauce. 

46) It’s 4 A.M. on a Saturday night, what would you eat? 

I guess junk food, so dark chocolate?

47) If you could teach a college class what would it be called? 

Understanding and Accepting Disabilities

48) Best animated film? 

Monsters Inc!!

49) What has a guy (or girl) done or said to impress you? 

I’m not sure, haha

50) The best thing to do on a date? 

I’ve never been on a date so…I would guess to be kind, respectful and to be genuinely interested in what the other is saying.

51) The worst thing to do on a date? 

Being rude bur especially to the staff at wherever this date is.

52) What is the funniest pick-up line a guy/girl could use on a girl/guy?

Oh my gosh, I just cannot think of any right now. What?

53) Best comic book character?

Tony Stark…I just want him to design me a wheelchair.

54) What are three things that are always in your purse? 

Food, a book, and my phone

55) Favourite drink? 

Tea – especially Turkish delight or Chai.

56) If you could play a historical character who would it be?

Madame De Pompadour – those who watch Doctor who will know why…

57) Kittens or puppies? 

I love both but probably puppies

58) Favourite sushi roll? 

Avocado!

59) What kind of lipstick do you use? 

I use many but my favourites are liquid lipsticks, especially Stilla and Nyx

60) What kind of foundation do you use? 

 London Rimmel lasting finish (And it’s only $13!)

61) Blow dry or air dry? 

Air dry, I’m lazy

62) Who is your fashion icon? 

I don’t really have one, but I often ask my sister’s advice — she’s so good.

63) Favourite Disney character? 

Argggh what is with all of these hard choices?

64) What are you doing tomorrow? 

Disney on Ice (I AM SO EXCITED!)

65) Movie you laughed the hardest through?

Recently, I liked Murder Mystery and Toy Story 4

66) A movie that made you cry? 

Up, Miracles from Heaven, Toy Story 3 – let’s be honest most animations.

67) If you could sing a duet with someone who would it be? 

Probably Selena – she just seems so fun, and good to be around. 

68) If your life were a song what would the title be? 

I mean my life is pretty close to the song Own It by Bailey Bryan. However, it would be called something like Exhausted but Killing it. 

69) Favourite animal? 

COWS I love them especially Highland Cows!!!!

70) Favourite illustrator? 

I don’t think I have one. However, I have a soft spot Nick Sharratt – the illustrator for Jacqueline Wilson books.

71) The person you want to have coffee with?

John Green 

72) What’s the country you wish to visit? 

Canada, and certain parts of America (New York and Nashville mostly).

73) Best ways to decompress? 

Shower, candles, face mask and watching something funny!

My nominations to do this are these wonderful people (in no particular order):

 Jordyn – The Chronically Unimaginable

Samantha – Unextrodinarybint

Jessica – Self Love, Self Care, Mental Health, Health + Fitness

Beth – Booksnest

Kristy – Ramblings of the Book Addict

Mercedes – Mom to Girlshttp://momtogirls.com/

Elissa – The Girl who Drools When She Sleeps

Emma – Emma Lombard Author

Miranda – Miranda Oakley Blog

Jess – Breaths of Jess

I can’t wait to see all of these!

As always, look after yourself and be kind to one another!

See you in a week,

Bethany

A Rant on Why the Disabled Community Still Need Activism

Hello everybody!

 I’m going to be honest with you guys. As I type this, I am really freaking annoyed and angry. I have been in bed for the last two and a half days. I was supposed to get up today and exercise but instead, I kept sleeping because I could barely move. For the last week and a half, I have been trying to write a very simple column for a girl I know and yet I can’t focus for more than five minutes on it. I don’t even remember the last time I was able to read more than a page without falling asleep. I have no idea how I’m focusing enough to write this. I think my entire energy is just fuelled off anger and a dash of glitter. Either way, here I am writing it.

To be honest, I think this side of having a disability is rarely talked about. People mostly like to speak on what we have achieved or how “inspirational” we are. Never our pitfalls It’s a tough one because a lot of people think that we as a community can’t do anything. When they learn we can do pretty much anything it’s like we can never have a bad day (or week). I’ve lost count of the number of times people close to me have accused me of faking my bad days. Like all of a sudden, my symptoms no longer occur just because I can hold a conversation and work hard.

All of that, of course, is why activism is still so needed. I get that there are 100s of causes to fight for nowadays. I know that many believe that we don’t need that many let alone another one. Heck, I have many people in my life who think that all this activism has already worked. They truly believe that we are all equal and these “extra” movements are unnecessary and pathetic. But the thing is, if I was working an average 9-5 job, I would have run out of sick days a long time ago; and probably have lost the job. I know that most people wouldn’t believe me when I have days off. The truth is, very few believe me now. Even more than that, this fictional 9-5 job is just that, fictional. Most disabled people have to create their own jobs because people won’t hire us. People see the wheelchair, the hearing aid, the guide dog and we’re automatically put in the “incapable” pile.

People need to start listening to us, they need to see us. The truth is, this community is amazing. We’re resourceful, passionate, intelligent, optimistic and sure-as-hell capable. But very few know this, very few see us, and that isn’t okay.

We are human, we are valuable, and we deserve to not be ignored, or treated as a second-class citizens. We deserve to be listened to and not be accused of “faking” or “exaggerating” all because someone doesn’t understand.

I realise that this post has been an entire rant and I apologise. I promise next week will be more fun!

Please look after yourself,

Bethany.