This week I thought that I would do a follow on from last week’s post about Dr Phil and his opinions of disabilities. In that post, I touched on the notion that disabled people aren’t a chore, amongst a few other things. So today, I thought that I would expand on that and offer why my disability doesn’t need to be fixed.
A lot of people presume that having a disability is this horrific event that destroys everything good. I understand where people are coming from when they think that. People can’t imagine how life could be worth living again once a pivotal body part doesn’t work again. A shift that dramatic is huge and dramatic. It literally changes everything, and you have to relearn how to live your life in a way you never expected to. That is overwhelming and terrifying. Not to mention, most people are only aware of disabled people through books and movies. These are often inaccurate portrayals of reality. The disabled person is depressed and never leaves the house and appears to have no future. That image is hard enough to take when you know it’s not true. Of course, those who don’t know much about disabled people believe it. All of this and more is why people often tell me a million “solutions” to my disability.
I’m sure that 99% of the time these ‘fixes’ are out of care and love. However, whilst all of what I have said is true it is not the only aspects of disabilities to consider. For example, all of that change means that you have the ability to learn and grow. Having a disability introduces you to a whole new way of looking at the world. It allows you to meet people who are with you in this amazing community. You get to push barriers and aim for change; you get to find a unique purpose and stand out in that knowledge. See being disabled is so much more than having pain and injured body parts. It’s more than people not understanding and ablest actions.
Being disabled, at least to me, is about empowerment.
It’s about the freedom to be who I am. Part of that identity is a girl whose legs don’t work and because of that, I’m on a mission. That mission is to raise awareness to my community, it’s to show that we are the same as all the abled people in the world. It is to make the world more accessible. There is a future generation that could live a more accepting, accessible life if things change. I get to add to that change and know that I get to help. It is to help those who feel like there’s no hope, realise that there is so much. Hope is always around; it just may not be where you expect it. I can smash the glass ceilings and change the world. I can’t achieve all of that by myself it takes so many people working together in my community. However, the fact that I can try and add a little bit feels amazing.
Ultimately, no matter what type of disability one has there is nothing wrong with it. People with disabilities are a bright force who are living our lives the way we want. If we’re happy, we don’t need to be fixed. Life will always through curveballs. But sometimes they can be the best thing that ever happens to you, even if it looks horrible at the beginning.
If I could summarise this post into one sentence, it would be this. Disabilities don’t need to be fixed because there is nothing wrong with us or our identity! No matter what I will always be proud to be disabled!
See you next Thursday! Remember to be kind to yourself and those around you.